Hey Cassy! Congrats on your new blog! I'm so proud of you and feel free to ask MissXpose any questions you may have as far as set up!
About titles, back in the day, a guy who I was seriously dating introduced me as his "friend" to a couple of his homies and his family. To me, at that time, he didn't take me seriously and i had to re-evalute my relationship...we ultimately broke up because he was never as committed as I was, which was apparent when he gave me the "friend" title. Oh well, you live and learn...and it has paid off (wink)...
YAY I've been tempted to try something like this but you beat me to it lol
Well men are very "territorial" about their woman, lady, girlfriend, etc. Not mainly for your reassurance BUT mostly as a warning to other men that "don't even try to make a move on her, she's mine". A guy at the end of the day doesn't want to share his girl with anyone else - that's if he's serious about you. So yeah, "a title" does mean a lot - it tells me where I stand with him. If he introduces me as "my friend" than I'm just that...self explanatory. I may be disappointed about it BUT it is what it is...
I think that it's moreso the substance of the relationship rather than the title that's important. To be honest, I would much rather a man treat me like a wifey than merely call me one but yet treat me like a side piece.
Titles are for society. As long as you and your man are on the same page as far as the relationship is concerned, then that's all that matters.
This artice found on www.examiner.com made me reevaluate relationship titles First name or nickname is great, but it doesn't signify the meaning of your relationship. Yes, there are many who abuse and misuse titles. There are those who are unfaithful to titles, so its fair to say that the contents of a relationship aren't always summed up in a label. However, it is also important to ask yourself this important question. When you are proud of something aren't you quick to show it off, brag about it and esteem it highly and sometimes even over-exaggerate a little? We as proud, sometimes egotistical human beings, love to boast about anything we see as valuable. So when someone refuses to acknowledge a significant other in their proper title, isn't it most likely similar to saying they like you but not that much or you are alright but not their dream come true? Its understandable for people who are dating to not acknowledge each other as girl/boyfriends at the beginning stages of a relationship, but once certain unspoken rules and deeds have been established, an appropriate title should be granted to the person who you care about.
So how long is too long to become wifey/girlfriend ? If you are with someone for a up to a year and they are still introducing you as a friend isit a Problem IF SO......
i don't mind the title wifey/girlfriend as long as i am in a serious relationship with the person. i hate when guys use those titles randomly. don't get me started on the "baby" or "babes" title...especially when he tells me he calls his female friends that. *ugh*...
Cass, a good time frame should be a couple of weeks Im guessing. I mean a year? you just a jumpoff! thats why you dont sleep with them until they make the commitment. a real man wont run off scared. if he is truly into you then he will work for you!
I'm finally posting a comment girl.. Aren't you proud?..lol.. I have to agree w/ Vanessa and Jennifer in regards to men being very territorial.. It's part of their nature. If you are dealing w/ a masculine energy man then He is going to claim you and let everyone know that you are off limits and that comes in the form of a "title" Now if you are dealing w/ a feminine energy man then he'll be happy to have you claim him...ha ha
In regards to how long does this happen... An avearge is around 3 to 6 months for a relationship to be established. A man who knows himself and knows what he wants is not going to take longer then that to have you established in his life in a very significant way...
Lol at Melissa shout to missxpose! Love it! Yep! I feel u J. Your right if a man wants u he isn't gonna wait to long to make u off limits. He wants his own! I know so many women who ask me this! "I have been messing with this guy for a few months he keeps avoiding when I ask him what I am to him" I want to scream " a damn jumpoff" as a woman if you don't set your standards why should any man feel he is obligated to reach them?? When I ask them that I get the blank stare. I digress.
I just spoke with on of my guy friends and he feels lady friend is all you need titles are not important. So I said that explains why your still single lol...men can be so clueless at times for real
I NEEDS my proper title. So take note gents : Go hard or Go home. Give me my correct title or none at all. When ur younger (like early college yrs , h.s, etc) Those names are cute but after 25yrs of age OH NO! Am I your woman or girlfriend..... not ur boo, or friend/friend girl Whatever. Commit to me Got dammit! Oops...let me bring it down a tone I'm having flashbacks....lol :) As I was sayin brothers stop being scared to commit if u r keep it movin. Don't drag folks on a string.
I think the title is something we need to hear to show us and everyone else that the guy were with is commited. Vanessa is right, if they want you they will not hesitate to claim you and make sure the other men knwo to back off. If a title is not given then they are not ready to give you a commitment.
It’s what’s behind that title and if it carries the same weight or meaning to the man as what it means to you. Many a men have stood before the eyes of God or the judge down the street and given the title of WIFE to their spouse and it meant nothing, because the next day they are still at Diamond’s getting sex in the champagne room. So a title is just that a TITLE unless you and your partner validate it with meaning.
Hey Cassy! Congrats on your new blog! I'm so proud of you and feel free to ask MissXpose any questions you may have as far as set up!
ReplyDeleteAbout titles, back in the day, a guy who I was seriously dating introduced me as his "friend" to a couple of his homies and his family. To me, at that time, he didn't take me seriously and i had to re-evalute my relationship...we ultimately broke up because he was never as committed as I was, which was apparent when he gave me the "friend" title. Oh well, you live and learn...and it has paid off (wink)...
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ReplyDeleteYAY I've been tempted to try something like this but you beat me to it lol
ReplyDeleteWell men are very "territorial" about their woman, lady, girlfriend, etc. Not mainly for your reassurance BUT mostly as a warning to other men that "don't even try to make a move on her, she's mine". A guy at the end of the day doesn't want to share his girl with anyone else - that's if he's serious about you. So yeah, "a title" does mean a lot - it tells me where I stand with him. If he introduces me as "my friend" than I'm just that...self explanatory. I may be disappointed about it BUT it is what it is...
jenn
I think that it's moreso the substance of the relationship rather than the title that's important. To be honest, I would much rather a man treat me like a wifey than merely call me one but yet treat me like a side piece.
ReplyDeleteTitles are for society. As long as you and your man are on the same page as far as the relationship is concerned, then that's all that matters.
This artice found on www.examiner.com made me reevaluate relationship titles
ReplyDeleteFirst name or nickname is great, but it doesn't signify the meaning of your relationship. Yes, there are many who abuse and misuse titles. There are those who are unfaithful to titles, so its fair to say that the contents of a relationship aren't always summed up in a label. However, it is also important to ask yourself this important question. When you are proud of something aren't you quick to show it off, brag about it and esteem it highly and sometimes even over-exaggerate a little? We as proud, sometimes egotistical human beings, love to boast about anything we see as valuable. So when someone refuses to acknowledge a significant other in their proper title, isn't it most likely similar to saying they like you but not that much or you are alright but not their dream come true? Its understandable for people who are dating to not acknowledge each other as girl/boyfriends at the beginning stages of a relationship, but once certain unspoken rules and deeds have been established, an appropriate title should be granted to the person who you care about.
What do you think ???
So how long is too long to become wifey/girlfriend ? If you are with someone for a up to a year and they are still introducing you as a friend isit a Problem
ReplyDeleteIF SO......
What is a good time range??
i don't mind the title wifey/girlfriend as long as i am in a serious relationship with the person. i hate when guys use those titles randomly. don't get me started on the "baby" or "babes" title...especially when he tells me he calls his female friends that. *ugh*...
ReplyDeleteplain and simple if a man wants YOU , he will claim you and give YOU a title. Men are very territorial.
ReplyDeleteCass, a good time frame should be a couple of weeks Im guessing. I mean a year? you just a jumpoff! thats why you dont sleep with them until they make the commitment. a real man wont run off scared. if he is truly into you then he will work for you!
ReplyDeleteGood point nessa....
ReplyDeleteI'm finally posting a comment girl.. Aren't you proud?..lol.. I have to agree w/ Vanessa and Jennifer in regards to men being very territorial.. It's part of their nature. If you are dealing w/ a masculine energy man then He is going to claim you and let everyone know that you are off limits and that comes in the form of a "title" Now if you are dealing w/ a feminine energy man then he'll be happy to have you claim him...ha ha
ReplyDeleteIn regards to how long does this happen... An avearge is around 3 to 6 months for a relationship to be established. A man who knows himself and knows what he wants is not going to take longer then that to have you established in his life in a very significant way...
Oh and Meesa, I love how you gave yourself a shout out for MissXpose..lol.. Always a business woman...
ReplyDeleteLol at Melissa shout to missxpose! Love it! Yep! I feel u J.
ReplyDeleteYour right if a man wants u he isn't gonna wait to long to make u off limits.
He wants his own! I know so many women who ask me this!
"I have been messing with this guy for a few months he keeps avoiding when I ask him what I am to him" I want to scream " a damn jumpoff"
as a woman if you don't set your standards why should any man feel he is obligated to reach them?? When I ask them that I get the blank stare.
I digress.
I just spoke with on of my guy friends and he feels lady friend is all you need titles are not important. So I said that explains why your still single lol...men can be so clueless at times for real
ReplyDeleteits because he hasn't met the woman he wants to claim
ReplyDeleteI NEEDS my proper title. So take note gents : Go hard or Go home. Give me my correct title or none at all. When ur younger (like early college yrs , h.s, etc) Those names are cute but after 25yrs of age OH NO! Am I your woman or girlfriend..... not ur boo, or friend/friend girl Whatever. Commit to me Got dammit! Oops...let me bring it down a tone I'm having flashbacks....lol :) As I was sayin brothers stop being scared to commit if u r keep it movin. Don't drag folks on a string.
ReplyDeleteI think the title is something we need to hear to show us and everyone else that the guy were with is commited. Vanessa is right, if they want you they will not hesitate to claim you and make sure the other men knwo to back off. If a title is not given then they are not ready to give you a commitment.
ReplyDeleteIt’s what’s behind that title and if it carries the same weight or meaning to the man as what it means to you. Many a men have stood before the eyes of God or the judge down the street and given the title of WIFE to their spouse and it meant nothing, because the next day they are still at Diamond’s getting sex in the champagne room. So a title is just that a TITLE unless you and your partner validate it with meaning.
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