First off: HAPPY NEW YEAR 2011!! I looked up the word "friend" in the dictionary and this is what it said:
Friend (noun): 1. somebody emotionally close; somebody who trusts and is fond of another; 2. acquaintance; 3. ally...We've all had a close "friend" that was of the opposite sex. You enjoy his company, his physical stature, his sense of humor and your ability to share almost any intimate detail about yourself to him. At times you even try to get some romantic attention from this “friend” but you end up in no man's land. But you don't give up, because like we've been taught: if at first you don't succeed, try, try again. Right?
Ladies, have you ever had a man in your life who kept on showing you who he is yet you kept him around because you refused to accept it? How long did it take you to see the writing on the wall?
HMMM...i never really been in that specific situation...But i have been attracted to a male "friend" and we ended up crossing the line and "hooking" up and for me, that usually means the demise of a friendship. I can speak for myself when I say that women are emotional, so if you decide to share your body with someone, u are gonna be emotionally attached...My male friend wasn't lookin' for a "relationship", and i could honestly say neither did i, but it was too hard for me to handle the NO STRINGS ATTACHED new found friendship. BOOOOOO. we are not friends today, and i'm good with that. How uurrrr doing (wendy williams voice)
ReplyDeleteyeah that situation happens more often than we think nowadays. particularly with us [women] we may think that once we establish that "emotional" bond (i.e. thru hooking up, flirtatious moves, etc.), the thing between you and the "friend" will get better. however 9 times out of 10 it does not - someone gets their feelings hurt/disappointed and it mostly like is us. aahh the trials and tribulations of being a woman lol
ReplyDeletegirl, it just never works out unless you and "friend" have mutual feelings and end up married. plain and simple. there will always be a time when one or the other thinks about leaving the platonic zone and entering the special friend zone. and honestly at some point if a friendship were to ever reoccur it will never be the same.
ReplyDeletenow on the part of seeing the signs and still deciding to stay with your man. I learned early and still learning..when someone shows you who they are..believe them. a man will always tell you what they want early on in the relationship or courtship. and we always think that oh when he gets with me and fall for me he will change his mind. that is not always the case are more often than not, they mean what they say. always take what they say at face value.
know what you want and go for that. if you settle when you see the signs you are only cheating yourself.
bought to you by...nessa.
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PREACH nessa!!! so well put! lol
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